My wife and I recently watched the movie, The Notebook. It is a very moving account of one person’s perspective of what it is like to live with and take care of someone with dementia.
It is set in a nursing home and tells the story of a woman with Alzheimer’s disease who kept a journal/diary, a “notebook”, chronicling her life growing up in the 1940’s. The man Allie married, Noah, reads it to her in the hope that her memory of their life together will return. (It is not immediately apparent, at least not to me, that he is her husband and that the story he reads to her is about them.)
While the doctors there give him no cause for optimism, he continues reading to her; and indeed she will occasionally “return” for a short time – even playing songs on the piano from memory! There is a scene where family members visit but she doesn’t recognize them. Quite heart wrenching!
It raises some hard questions: Will my spouse eventually forget who I am or vice versa?
Why do some people get dementia and others don’t?
Lastly, this is a movie about life choices. We find out that Allie, unlike her mother, chooses love and passion over money and security.
What does this all have to do with home care?
The story brings out just how hard it is to watch someone decline and try your best to care for them. Noah did that job, 36 hours a day, until they die in their sleep together in each other’s arms.
In the end, at the final exam of life (if there is one) there is only one question: “How much have you loved?” Allie and Noah passed with flying colors!!
Thought provoking and emotionally charged, this is a movie for the ages!
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Chris Christel, Author
Chris Christel, a pioneer in geriatric care, founded Christel's Home Care Agency in 1985. Chris has a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology and a wealth of knowledge in the field of home care.
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